Bonus: What to do when you feel that your emotions are about to take over
If your emotions and feelings are taking over, you need to remember a few things.
1. It’s only you who is responsible for the emotional state of yours. Your partner is not the one over whom you can burden it.
2. Don’t let negative energy surround you. Live in the moment and stop thinking about what your partner must be doing or what he or she said and what they meant. It will just torment you.
3. Locate a comfortable place in your body and mentally put an “internal observer” in that area. This is a part of you that will preserve objectivity in any situation and won’t let emotions get the best of you. Look around and see the situation through the eyes of the “internal observer.” If you’re feeling emotionally overwhelmed, remember that those feelings and the feelings that you’re experiencing toward your partner at that moment do not define the entirety of your life.
4. Find ways to cheer yourself up and use resources around you to ger over the obsessive thoughts of your partner. Do something you love to do, drink some coffee or anything else that makes you happy.
If nothing helps and you feel that you can’t out of a complicated and painful relationship, don’t hesitate to turn to a professional therapist.