Who said you have to wait for the holiday season to end to break up with your boyfriend?! If you’re unhappy with him, dump him now. Sure, that might mean attending a few family dinners alone and having to dodge some uncomfortable questions but that’s better than staying with someone you know you’re not supposed to be with, right? Here are 10 reasons why you should go ahead and dump your boyfriend now before you even put that Christmas tree up:
He Doesn’t Listen To You
You’re constantly repeating yourself and he rarely remembers what you tell him. It’s as if you’re dating a child who’d rather talk than listen — except he’s a full-fledged adult and has no excuse for drowning out your words. There’s no need to be with someone who thinks they’re too good to pay attention to what you’re saying.
He Rarely Shows His Emotions
Some people have a hard time showing their soft and sensitive side. It’s okay if he doesn’t cry while watching romantic comedies, but does he ever tell you how he feels about you? Does he ever make you feel special or surprise you every now and then? What’s he going to get you as a Christmas gift? Socks…or worse, a gift card? It’s one thing if he struggles to be open with you, it’s another if he NEVER tells you how he feels.
It’ll be Less Embarrassing
If you break up with him now you’ll avoid the embarrassment of having to tell all your family and friends (who saw him during the holidays) that you two are no longer together. Why bring him around your favorite people during this magical time when you know he’s not going to last more than another month (max)?!
He Doesn’t Bring Out The Best In You
You don’t necessarily want someone who completes you, but you do want someone who makes you feel like your best self. He should be your biggest cheerleader and the first person you want to call when you have good news. If he’s not, he’s not the one for you and you might be closing yourself off from your actual person.
He Doesn’t Ask Questions
Significant other’s should be curious about their partners. You should be asking him about his job and his friends, and he should be doing the same. If he rarely ever asks you personal questions, there’s no way he could really really know you. And it doesn’t really sound like he wants to. Dump him before you have to spend money buying him a gift (wink wink).
You’ll Have Less To Stress About
The holidays are already a stressful time. Yes, they can be fun and all that. But with the shopping, decorating, and having to spend time with people coming home to visit, it can be a lot! Worrying about your relationship and its inevitable ending is the last thing you need. If you’re not happy and you know it’s not going to get any better, it’s probably best to cut those ties instead of having them weigh you down!
He’s Not Completely Over His Ex
His ex-girlfriend did a real number on him and it’s clear he’s not fully over it yet. If he’s not complaining about her every 10 seconds, he’s comparing the two of you. He might say something like, “You’re so much nicer than my ex.” This might sound like a compliment but it’s really not. His ex is still on his mind and dating someone who didn’t take the time to get over their past relationship before jumping into a new one isn’t an ideal situation.
He’s Weird About You Meeting His Parents
It’s the holidays and that means you’re both going to have to spend a little time with each other’s families. You’re perfectly fine with that, but he seems hesitant. Either he doesn’t want you to meet his parents or he doesn’t want to meet yours. None of the two are great signs that the relationship is on track; especially if the two of you have been dating for a while. He should be proud to show you off, not against the idea!
You’re Not Emotionally Attracted To Him
You like him because he looks good, but that’s pretty much the only reason. Don’t get us wrong, it’s important to be physically attracted to the person you’re dating. It’s also important to be emotionally attracted to him! You should like the thing’s your boyfriend says, what he does, how he treats other people, etc. If you’re not attracted to who he is, what’s the point?
You’re Only Staying Becuase You Don’t Want To Be Single
You know he’s not the person for you but you’re staying with him because he’s all you’ve got. Going from a relationship to being single is only difficult when that relationship is good. If yours isn’t a good relationship, you’re going to feel SO much better without him. Trust us!